Finding Balance in a Busy Life

Hi, I’m Martha – a wife, mom and full time marketing coordinator with a commute. My husband and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary and our son is 7 months old this week. Our life is busy, wild, chaotic and hilarious, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

We moved to Lake Country 3.5 years ago and fell immediately in love with everything about it from the lakes, to the trails, to the community. My husband and I both grew up in small towns, so we had a pretty specific idea of the type of place we wanted to plant our roots. Both of us lived in bigger cities for a while – Madison for me, Chicago for Casey, and we were certain smaller community living was right for us. As a consolation prize, both of our families are within an hour driving distance, so we always have visitors!

We’ve had a busy 3.5 years (I think that is an understatement). We got married, adopted a very sassy cat, moved from an apartment in downtown Delafield to our dream home in Oconomowoc, found out weeks later we were expecting, watched our parents become grandparents and so much more.

When Dane arrived in early spring, I had decided to work part-time and focus on him and our family. Maternity leave flew by, and we quickly learned we had a baby boy who hated to miss out on anything, resulting in very little napping… resulting in very tired parents. I did the working part time thing for a few months, and decided that I needed a new challenge. Job-hunting with a 4 month old is no easy task… but I was able to find a position with an incredible company, the only caveat was – it would be full time, and there would be a commute.

I will be totally honest here and say it’s been hard on me. I went from being home 20 hours a week and lots of time with Dane, to being in the office full time + 30 minutes of driving on either side of those days. Since Dane is still not a huge fan of naptime, his bedtime comes pretty early and so, time management has become top priority for me. Workouts get skipped, laundry doesn’t get folded, and our house collects dust (SO FAST), but spending time with our very quickly growing boy is #1 on my list.

Here are a few of my favorite tips that I try to live by.

  1. Stay on schedule – I use to be pretty lax about timing, watching an extra episode of Walking Dead and staying up too late. Hitting snooze a few too many times or skipping the morning shower in favor of a couple extra zzz’s. That all flew out the window when we became parents, but we’re adapting. Dane is sleeping through the night these days, but like clockwork – he’s up anywhere between 5 and 6 a.m. On those 5 a.m. days, it’s easy to be annoyed, but I always try and remind myself that my time with him is limited and precious, so up and out of bed I go. Staying on our family schedule is vital. This means – getting into bed earlier, waking up early for workouts (sometimes – this is SO HARD), and most of all, supporting each other.
  2. Leave It – I mentioned the state of our home earlier – messy, unkempt and sometimes a disaster zone. Casey and I are both generally pretty clean people…. That being said, we can be mess-makers. Our bedroom right now is a mishmash of clean, folded clothes, dirty clothes that need washing, dusty furniture and even a bag filled with clothes from a trip I took to Chicago 2 weekends ago – gasp! But, my point is, who cares? Sometimes it’s okay to put the housework on hold – and live in the moment. I can attest that time moves way faster with a child, so we leave the laundry and cuddle with the kiddo. Note: I am cleaning our room tonight, I know it’s a mess and I’m a happier person with a clean house. J
  3. Stay positive – Sometimes I get sad that I only see Dane for a few hours during the day, but I know the decisions we’re making are benefiting our family in so many ways. Attitude is everything and children pick up on stress or emotions.

Every family is different, and you just have to do what’s right for you. If you are a working mama, I commend you – it’s hard, right? If you’re a stay at home mama, you are amazing – taking care of children full-time is NO JOKE. The main thing, I think that helps me day-to-day, is support from other women who are living this rollercoaster life with me. We all have to stick together, because no matter which choices we make, the end game really is a happy, healthy family. Thanks for reading!

-Martha

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