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A Series on Relationships – Chapter 1: Friendships

Welcome to our series on relationships, because that is what life is all about 🙂 Throughout the next five weeks, we will be taking you with us on a series on relationships across our lives. We hope you enjoy reading. Please let us know if you can relate and how you nurture the relationships in your life.

Chapter 1: Friendships

Relationships. I think a lot about these things that can be lifelong or fleeting. Each is important in some way or another, and it is essential to remember to nurture them or they could easily fizzle out. Through my 31 years, I have had many friends, many people I would call best friends, many acquaintances whom I’ve grown close to quickly and for a brief time. Even though some of those relationships were quick, it doesn’t mean they weren’t important in shaping who I am today.

There are different kinds of relationships, all just as important as the next. This series is meant as a reminder to myself to nurture and work on each kind of relationship in my life: with my husband, my friends, family, my child and most importantly, myself. The entire reason I started blogging in the first place was a way to “stay me”, to keep my unique identity in tact as I navigate through all of life’s obstacles.

Keeping in Touch

Admittedly, I am not the type of person who is great at keeping in touch. I am not really a pick-up-the-phone and talk-for-hours kind of girl, nor am I an email writer. I wish I were! Lucky for me, the Internet makes things incredibly easy to “stay in touch” with people. Facebook rolled out to UW-LaCrosse when I was a sophomore way back in 2004 and it has been my primary and favorite mode of “keeping up” for years now. I feel like I get a snapshot into people’s lives that I haven’t seen in person for years. Though some may find it creepy or invasive, I cannot get enough of it. Since I have recently become a mama, I have been able to reconnect with a lot of old friends from my hometown who are going through similar milestones and it has been wonderful to see those people going though such a beautiful time in their own lives.

No excuses

I place a very strong emphasis in my life on nurturing my friendships. With girls I’ve known my entire life, or college bests, or co-workers who’ve turned into shoulders to lean on – they’re all so valuable at all stages in life. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the monotonous day-to-day routine and ignore those people. Some days I completely avoid the group chat that buzzes away, filled with updates and messages from my friends – because I am “too busy” (some days I honestly am.) But in the end, these are the people who are going through it too – maybe not on the same exact path, but one that is parallel to mine. They’re getting married, having kids, climbing the corporate ladder, selflessly caring for others and remembering to love themselves too.

There will always be times when you need advice on something – your child, what to do about an issue in your marriage, support during the loss of someone important, or something as simple as what color shirt to wear for family photos. These friends help with your stress level, encourage you and can even just help keep you sane in a crazy time during your life.

So even though it might seem like just another thing to engage and make plans, DO IT! My group of friends from college is split among 5 states, but we almost always plan a girl’s weekend twice a year to make sure to foster our relationships. These weekends have changed a lot over the years (from late night bar hopping and dance floors, to staying in with wine and talking about babies and dancing in the living room), but one thing stays the same – the love and respect we have for each other and the support we give.

Find your Tribe and Love them Hard

So, I encourage you to make time for these women – because they are often the ones who know you best and can give the best advice at the right time. You never know when a quick message or a “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you” will make the difference for someone.

Stay tuned for another chapter in this series soon – I’m going to talk more about relationships with other important people in life. Have a great rest of your week!


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